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No Emails after 6 pm in France? Too Good to be True

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No Emails after 6 pm in France? Too Good to be True

For those who are just tuning in, it was widely reported a few weeks back that the French will be shutting off email at 6pm. The Guardian, Fast Company, and a bunch of people reported it. On Twitter, it seemed like it gave people an opportunity to make fun of the French culture of work.

But the basis of the story is more mundane. As a result of the recent government switch-up, one of the first initiatives to show how the new administration is working hard to achieve their socialist capitalist agenda, was to reinforce the “pacte de responsibilité”, the agreement that holds  between employer and employee. One such addition was to prevent employers from being able to pressure employees to work harder by sending emails after office hours – essentially, the digital equivalent of not receiving a phone call in the middle of dinner from your boss.

But the reality is that it affects about 1% of the people working for the regional city government, and leaves the rest of us to toil on as normal.

Ah, well. While it made for great headlines, the reality is it’ll (still) be up to each of us individually to manage the load and expectations of email.


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Save. Ship. Shed.

Cardboard boxes. White Labels. 978 decisions a day. Moving is exhausting. Clarifying too.

Finding the memorabilia was fun. For example, I kept the very first drawing pencils that kiddo used. Silly in some ways — he’ll never need them in the future, and he probably won’t remember them. But I always loved watching him draw with these 20 or so 4-inch pencils that fit into a circle box.

Some things need to be shipped to France, via a small crate that will be shipped over the seas. Champagne glasses. A handmade quilt.  Kiddo chose a really soft blanket. We also packed some art, to help us feel like it is home.

There is the stuff we’ll need when we get home. Beds. Hangers. That goes to storage.

And then we shed the things we no longer need. Lipsticks from 2010. Prada perfume bottle that Curt gave and I said was for ‘his other girlfriend’ since I don’t wear perfume.

In the unearthing of old papers, I found the original design of my desk back, custom created in 2003. One side of the desk has a pull out bread-board — a way for a guest to write. Kiddo used this space to do his first homework, his first drawings.

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Every time I look at it, I think of him there. Him so little and small compared to this desk which was huge, and heavy. I’ve yet to find a good home for the desk, and I hope it finds a great new owner. Two books have been written on it, and countless interesting conversations had near it. But what I’ll always remember about this desk is kiddo climbing into a chair, and then sitting on his knees while he worked alongside me.

Happy

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We go to Paris in just a few short weeks, and I’m planning on dancing in ALL these spots: the Louvre Museum, the spot under the overground metro (near the 15th), the carousel near the Hotel Deville, the Siene, Luxembourg gardens, and so on.

Really. I swear I will.

Cause the darn move will be OVER.

Maybe I’ll have kiddo do it with me and we’ll post that video.


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Saying Goodbye

On Friday the 13th, we threw a party to say goodbye to our neighbors and friends from kiddo’s elementary school.

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We got a taco truck, which we thought would make it super easy. And generally speaking it was. Only thing was … they didn’t tell me I need to have my own plates and napkins. Whoopsie.

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My friend Marie Cameron (an unbelievable artist who also happens to live near us) made rose mojitos. Other friends bartended. There was some gin-mango drink that was also divine.

We also ordered a jumpy house, which all of kiddos’ friends LOVED.  There was loads of squealing.

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There was sliced cold watermelon to eat.

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And the reason the kids are all wet is due to the water-balloon fight.

Kiddo was beaming at the end of the night, so I think he had fun. We’re all a little meloncholy. But it’s better to celebrate the passage and this moment in time, than to ignore it and this party gave us the chance to do that.

How to Complain Like a Parisian

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How to Complain Like a Parisian

Complaining like a Parisian is one way to fit it.

Say, “C’est chiant, ça!” — which basically means “that sucks,” but is a great all-purpose bitch. Draw it out so it sounds almost Chinese — say shyannnn, sa! Do the complaining, while shaking the head and exhaling cigarette smoke.

Found this little excerpt in a NY magazine that Raina Kumra sent me, entitled “Do you really need to learn French to live in Paris”.


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About two decades ago, I discovered a better target for travel than destinations. Rather than organize my trip around places — the iconic cities, monuments, streets, regions, countries — I’ve learned that I get 10 times the reward when I organize my travel around passions. – Kevin Kelly

Shopping used to be a big focus on my travels, but today it diminishes … I just don’t need more stuff. And so I’ve been thinking about how to organize trips, so we can go deeper into a culture. And turns out Kevin answers that question so well… organize around your passions. More here: https://hi.co/moments/1votdtw6


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On a Constant Adventure, Together

Ever since we met, Curt and I have been having an adventure.

So this NPR interview with the artists of Johnnyswim caught my ear.

Sudano and Ramirez spend a lot of time on the road, in the studio and at home, but they say it never becomes too much. For them, it’s “all one kind of stream of life.”

“I think it’s almost the opposite of maybe what people expect to think,” Sudano says. “Instead of the longer you’re out on the road it gets more claustrophobic, the longer you’re out on the road it gets nicer to have [Ramirez] there, because he’s the closest thing to home I have. Home is where he is. The farther away I get from being at home, the more I cling to being near him, because he gives me that sense of, ‘OK, everything’s all right,’ and he brings me back to home.”

“The greatest asset in our marriage,” Ramirez adds, “is that we’re on a constant adventure together.”

I hope we feel the same as we live in Paris.


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Herminia’s Welcome

A week before we were to go to Paris to sort out the school and apartment situation, we got a note from a friend. All she asked was “when? and … can we plan a little gathering for you and the family.” We were touched by her generosity of spirit. Herminia Ibarra and I met at the Thinkers 50 where she was recognized as the *most* influential thinker in the leadership category. Turns out we share an amazing literary agent, Carol Franco.

As you can see in this little video, her home and friends were lovely. Her family is from Miami, so her son spoke fluent English, Spanish, and French. Her kitchen sign of to-dos — one of the first things we noticed… had things like citron (lemons) and Philadelphia. Which just made us smile.

If I ever make you some salad with pomegranate seeds and spinach, know I got the recipe from Herminia… and it will always remind us of this warm spring evening and the loving welcome.


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Departure Date Set

This is getting real, people.

Yesterday, Curt and I mapped out a rough plan of what we need to do by when. Each area of the house gets a weekend of focus. Then the date to do a neighborhood farewell, thus emptying the liquor cabinet. Then, the plans for a big moving sale. Of course, the date to put things into storage. Backed into by knowing our management agency needs five days to spiffy up the house before our tenants move in.

But the thing that made it really seem *real*?

Making the airline plans. One-way.

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Paris through London, because it was 3x the price if we went direct. We’ll stay in a hotel for a night, and then meet the agent the next day to get the keys to our new place.